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Depression, the constant contradiction.

S o Depression for me is such a conundrum. I marvel at the beauty in life, I see all sorts of interest in crazy small things as much a stunning views. A catch for a gate caught my attention this morning and it led me down a rabbit hole of awe. All those inventions and people involved in such an insignificant thing. it's crucial to a gate and a beautiful form, yet was rusty and paint chipped. So that led me to thinking about nature and all the wonders there. I can see beauty all around me, this world, universe etc is truly amazing. All that creativeness, all that chance, all that randomness. But, the contradiction! I don't see any of that in me, I see failure, lack of talent, lack of any positive input on the world. I don't see any wonder in my existence. Just guilt. Guilt for every decision, the need to feel validated by others because I'm unable to see the good in myself. I even feel guilt for living, for not being a better part of the world, for not enjoying...
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Show me the exit

Today I had to fill out a mental health assessment form.  I've filled these out so many times and once they get to know me I guess it looks far less scary.  I agonise over what to put, trying desperately to remember all my emotions in the last two weeks.  Particularly hard when I can't even remember what I had for breakfast that day or even if I actually had any. Well today I must say I filled in a couple of sections slightly more positively that I have in the past.  But to a new professional meeting me for the first time I suspect it was still a bit alarming. So lets talk about death shall we?  Now as a child I never thought I would become an adult. I thought constantly that I would kill myself before getting out of my teens.  As such, when I got to my twenties I had no idea what to do with myself, no aspirations as such as I thought I would have checked out already.  I then started blaming my father for not giving me the inner strength to follow ...

This diagnosis

I'm lying here and thinking about my recent diagnosis of fibromyalgia. I'm trying to work out how I feel about it. After weeks of brain fog I've noticed I'm making connections with my emotions. The main I think I'm feeling is that it isn't true. That I don't really have it. The doctor made a mistake. I guess this is denial and a step to accepting my condition.... But what if they were wrong?? I did ask in clear terms if that was certainly what she felt I had. But your mind plays tricks on you and I can't help feel I heard her wrong. Why do I feel like it's all a mistake? Well on one level maybe I feel I'm so often misdiagnosed with things that this is yet another example. Years ago I was diagnosed and treated for mid tension glaucoma, months of migraines from the meds and turns out I didn't have it. Carpal tunnel, even had the injections but turned out I didn't have that either. All my life I've wanted a reason to explain what...

Living the Laxative life

For the past 8 years I have been told I need to take laxatives to help with my POP.   Really??  So what's it like needing to take tablets and powders daily so you can prevent the POP getting too bad?   Well, to be honest I started on them as told by the doc so that It wouldn't make things worse... however I do feel it has had dramatic side effects.  Admitedly I no longer need to strain and it has certainly meant emptying my bowels is easier.... but!  Oh my the daily struggles! So lets start by planning my week.  (you seriously have to think in advance all the time) so this week I have school runs, a cbt appointment, music class with my youngest and a long car journey.  Because my prolapse has become so painful recently I can't walk the school runs, but I do still need to fit my laxatives in.  So, as I know it will take them a little while to take effect I can take my powdered morning ones while the kids are having breakfast (they ...

This POP roundabout

So why am I here?  Why are you here? Did you stumble here by mistake? Or are you, like me, trying to find some answers or comfort? As I was driving early this morning, contemplating my life and what I was going to say to my counseller later, it occurred to me to start a new blog, one to talk about the health issues I am currently facing. I guess, in the interests of disclosure and all that I should start at the beginning.  (don't panic this isn't a life story and doesn't go back to my youth.) 8 years ago I was diagnosed with POP.  POP stands for pelvic organ prolapse.  I felt at the time that bottom had both literally and figuratively fallen out my world. I had, it seems a rectal prolapse, commonly called a rectocele.  Now the trouble with having a prolapse, is not just the physical discomfort and pain but the embarrassment and shame that comes with it. Although apparently 50% of women suffer with a pop of some kind it is something that not many talk abou...